Ek sawal

Ab yahan tak aa gaye hain , ab kidhar jaayen?

To you with love

Each person who has shared a deep conversation (even if once) with us or has been part of our lives for no matter how small a duration, gets added to life's history, our memories and also our heart. This one is for my people....right from the friends I had in nursery to the people with whom things couldn't work out, to the people with whom I shared just a few good moments to the ones I love. I am glad you were/are a part of my life. You all made me learn something, about life and about myself.

• Maybe we talk everyday and you know I appreciate you, still what's the harm in a reminder? You are the best!
  
• Maybe we talk/meet talk everyday but I am too in awe to tell you that I appreciate you..please understand it still. This one is esp true for elders+ teachers. I also respect you.
• Maybe we keep in touch occasionally but are still close...all know that I do value our time together and miss you and feel good to still be in touch
• Maybe we were once close but now don't talk anymore...please know that in life, somethings just don't work out. That doesn't mean that I don't care . I carry memories with me and cherish them still.
  
• Maybe we once had a wonderful single conversation/ shared a few good times ( tough not close ones) ..You made me learn vital things about myself and the world and I appreciate it and you are not forgotten
  
• Maybe we are blogger friends...You support my self expression and make me learn new lessons regularly and are good listeners.
• Maybe I don't even know you but you wrote something I loved... I appreciate it coz novels are almost like friends at times.

Maybe that's why I like social networking sites. They connect us to our world....all aspects are connected together. There so many people in my friends list whom I rarely talk to but it's nice to see what's happening in their life still and be in occasional touch.


Maybe the world is like a wardrobe of ours, we don't wear all clothes always. Some are essentials. Some are our favourites. We grow too old for some.Some are not fancy but just comfortable. We need them. Some are frilly ones which don't last more than a single wearing. But they all covered us at some time.

Tagged!...Little things that piss me off

This tag came from Geetika. Here I go........


1) Unwelcome critics-People who are sooo generous with their criticism about your personal habits or just about anything when noone has actually asked their opinion. And they don't realise it can hurt at times. For the record, I am happy with myself and if I am not, I will ask for your valuable opinions when I need them.

2)Topper worship-Just because someone is great in one field or even aspect of life, it doesn't mean that they are out of this world. And just because someone is OK in a field , it odesn't mena they can't excel in another.

3)No reply-When people who don't reply to official mails. Come onn, a no doesn't take that long. Why keep anyone hanging?

4) This is sooo girly-What else do you expect? Hello! I am a girl. And liking romantic novels certainly doesn't mean I don't read anything else! Some of them life's best lessons...if you can't appreciate anything but philosophical ones, then that's nothing to be proud of. It's just choice.

5)Division-In this day and age people still talk of casteism and all that. I mean how can you generalise anyone but a name? Every person is unique.


I tag Taps, Ankur and whoever else wants to take it.

Love and.....................chess!

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.....................playing chess with each other ,aiding the other to win and ending in a draw!

Thought

Abstinence is easier than moderation

Food

It's strange how much food affects your life........it defines your mood and all sorts of quality times.....like your entire lifestyle!
Family times together would be over a reassuring cup of tea or a ritual of dinner together. You bond with friends particular outlets....maybe at "Barista's Dark Temptation" or maybe just at Mc D...whatever!
Going out means you will eat something interesting an daring or something tried and tested.
Some types of food items become "comfort foods"...munch chocolate of chips over a movie/novel when upset!
Celebration means going out to your fav restaurant usually.

And at the end of the day what do you get? Excess weight and fat ...........and suddenly you can't have any of it! It requires a whole lifestyle change to eat healthy!

But then sometimes that can also be worth it...especially if you start healthy eating together with a few close ones. It gives you a chance to explore more in life. It's worth a try.

Brida

It's amazing how some books manage to give you new insight to life each time you read them..like brida......read it just the second time and already devoting another post to it........especially want to share a few of the beautiful quotes from it....

"Anyone who tries to possess a flower will have to watch its beauty fading. But if you simply look at a flower in a field, you will keep it forever, because the flower is part of the evening and the sunset and the smell of damp earth and the clouds on the horizon"


"All wines should be tasted; some should only be sipped, but with others, drink the whole bottle..................... You can only know a good wine if you have tasted a bad one"

Between Friends

Between Friends!

I will say no more!

Life was good again

It had been a frustrating day and week. No one appreciated her hard work or talent. It was always someone else who made it to the top. She had been sick. She had been confused. And she had been angry and irritable. Gudia felt that any minute now she would burst. And now when she finally wanted to relax with her love, she got a call for a sudden meeting. There really seemed to be no justice! Her though, patient as always, told her to take her time and he would be waiting nearby. It took her half an hour and one agrument to get back. Only now she couldn't reach her love's number-- and soon she would have to go home ! This wasn' t the first time. His phone hadn't been working for sometime now. But at that moment it was all that was needed to push her to the edge.

There he came smiling...and she fumed and shouted "Why don't you just throw your phone away?"
Plonk!!!!
Down went the phone on the road.
Gudia felt stunned but rescued it in time.
"What did you do that for? Are you crazy?"
"You said throw it away. :)"
"But it could have broken..." Gudia said still stunned.
"So what? It's just a phone.....that should be thrown away." He winked.

Suddenly Gudia smiled and relaxed...who could be hyper when they had such sweet love? What more could one ask for? Life was good again.

Life can be harsh but sometimes little spontaneous acts of love/craziness/kindness are all that we require to get us back to our senses and back to face reality.

Supporting roles

Some people always stay in "supporting roles".They are not made to play the lead no matter what. They are either nice and likable or just funny. And that's all they ever will be.
Just like comedians WILL get laughed AT and not just have people laugh WITH them.
It's not fair.
But that's life and it stays that way. The sooner we accept it, the better. Why is it still difficult? I guess because we all want the lead and strive for it and failure hurts. Second best is not the same. Best in support is good and satisfying but it leaves you striving for more. Some of which you will never get.

Small wonders!

We are most sensible as babies...we know how to express ourselves without words( certainly know how to make ourselves heard!), we fight for what we want, we spread smiles in an unbiased way to the world, yet we need our family first and recognize that. We love all and everyone loves us. Simple.

Expectations and Limitations

No two people have same expectations.Shouldn't people expect only what they give? But that puzzles also because if they are given more than they would like to give then it isn't it unfair on all concerned parties, even though it's done with good intentions?

Experience or unnecessary risk?

People say you need to gain experience for many things. But in some cases , isn't it similar to cutting your right hand to experience being able to write with the left?
Its' like in life you never know when you jump whether it's bungee jumping or actually a real dive with no security.
So what do you do? Never dive in fear ? Or dive and risk falling?

Valentine's day

A day associated by most with having someone to go out with or having someone show you how special you are and vice versa. But there's more to this day. It's about love. And love doesn't always have to expressive . Nor does have to be loud. It's silent, gentle and beautiful. Like a child.
And it's not exclusive . There's always surplus to be shared once you open your hearts to it. It's not limited to that "someone special" though of course having someone to share you entire life with and to love and be loved with that person is the best gift life can give.
But I firmly believe that to start opening ourselves to love, we don't need someone. We just need ourselves. You should be your first Valentine. Who can tell you better about yourself than you can ? Who can know what makes you smile , what makes your heart beat and what makes your face crumble better than yourself?

This Valentine's day, if you have no one to celebrate with, go pamper yourself. Of course if you have someone then the best way to make yourself happy would be to love fully. But one can only love fully when at peace with oneself.......and the world.

Alone or lonely heart?

We all wish to have someone to tell all to understand us inside out. But isn't it also scary because knowing us means knowing our darker side. And is it even plausible? There are so many things which have no reason and just can't be explained...is it even fair to expect anyone to understand them? If we can't expect that, then is the heart supposed to be lonely or in other words self-dependent?

Why???:P

Just a curiosity ....would like to see some interesting thoughts on the following :

Why do people associate feelings with the heart and not with the brain? How did this thinking start?

Queries to all writer and blogger friends

Are writers born, created or can writing also be acquired?

What are most important ingredients for a writer...a novelist in particular?

How do you go about writing a novel? Is it enough to have a story and right emotional quotient?

Doesn't everyone have a story( at least) inside them?
If yes then why is it not expressed?

Reading and discussions

Discussing novels with someone well read in your domain is almost like discussing people from long ago whom both know well.

A new year

Hmmm ideally this should be my "Happy New Year" post but somehow the seems to have crept by me without me realizing this time.

Been trying to meet deadlines and declutter my room. This gave me an opportunity to walk down years down the memory lane. It's weird..I mean most of us have replied to where you will be 10 years hence soem time of the other....but what about 10 years earlier.
Those dreams, wishes , thoughts and ideals....have they been in fulfilled today or are they lost somewhere?
What I noticed most easily was that it's easier to be good and wise when you are young, innocent and even unhappy. You can get used to it. You can be selfless and have high ideals and just spread love.
But life changes all that. With each blow of betrayal that life throws, you grow a bit more cynical and a bit more "cautious" . And caution makes you selfish. Selfish soemtimes makes you take care of yourself and makes you happier though that shouldn't happen ideally. Once you get used to happiness it's diffrent ball game all together. Then life just moves in that direction.

I was so much wiser and more good 10 years earlier. But I am happier now. Paradox? Life is weird.