Thursday, November 23, 2006

To thine own self be true

Somethings i realised recently and some which i re-discovered .......this time some answers instead of questions........

  • It's ok to make mistakes or rather everyone has the right to make mistakes.This is a small sentence but it weighs a lot....it can change everything about life.

  • It's ok if you dont' always excel or even fail at times...it doesn't make you anything but human.

  • It's ok to be angry....there is nothing wrong if you get angry at friends either.It's ok even to overreact at times....

  • It's not just ok but its required to assert yourself at times....to say "no", to say so when you have a problem with something....

  • It's ok disagree with friends......disagreeing doesn't mean misunderstanding.It just gives you your own individuality.

  • It's ok if there are others who don't like you.Not everyone is expected to.It's ok if you dislike people also.....but disliek shouldn't turn to hatred.

  • It's ok if you aren't at completely ease in the presence of everyone...as long as you are your trueself always.....we all have different comfort levels and we need to learn that just because there are people who aren't in our comfort level ,it doesn't mean that something is wrong with us.Neither should it mean that we start disliking them.Just accept them and accept ourself...just this knowledge will make it easier to be around them when required.

  • It's ok to feel whatever you no matter how stupid it seems as long as you acknowledge it.Ultimately we are all responsible to ourselves so onething that is essential is to know yourself and requires being honest to yourself...and it's not difficult but it requires courage .And once we are honest to ourselves...everything is easier...to open up to others is also much easier...

  • It's not required to always judge yourself .......sometimes acceptance is also required........there is no need to change unless you feel your present situation is affecting you or someone else adversely.Everyone has their own pecularities.....love yourself for them.....

  • It's ok to be "weird" at times!

  • There is nothing wrong in pointing out your strengths or being praised ........many people can find faults in themselves,can take criticism but not praise(of course not to be mistaken with flattery)...its important to be humble but its equally important to believe in your good qualities.

  • Don't regret anything....eg:if you take time out to enjoy yourself......don't feel guilty about later on.......live each moment fully....you owe it yourself....we can only truly help others when we are at peace with ourselves.

A saying I read many times but am still trying to implement..."Don't give explanations to anyone......your friends don't need them and others won't believe you anyway".
It's difficult to practise this if you dont; do it instinctively ....to me it means being secure in the presence of others and truly accepting yourself as a worthwhile and important being...it would be surprising to know how few people actually believe that truly from within....and it has nothing to do with outer confidence.....

Our actions shouldn't depend on our prediction of other peoples' reaction to it.

6 comments:

Ankur jain said...

Nice to read!!!
So many answer and thoughts just like to say keep it up and best of luck:-)

Tapasya said...

This seems to be a summary of our last week's discussion. Nicely said. They are the basic principles of life that should be put in pre-school, so that you dont waste 20 odd years discovering them.

aditi said...

reply[Ankur]
Thanx....now just hoping to be able to implement all this:)

aditi said...

reply[Tapasya]
i feel there's a great deal more in it than what we discussed last week....but yes it also covers all that i learned recently from life as a whole,with all its various sources and all dat i had to share ...some answers esp which i wanted you to know...

Vivek said...

"Our actions shouldn't depend on our prediction of other peoples' reaction to it."

Very nice.

aditi said...

Reeply[Vivek]
Thanx...dats my fav line out of this blog!