Some people always stay in "supporting roles".They are not made to play the lead no matter what. They are either nice and likable or just funny. And that's all they ever will be.
Just like comedians WILL get laughed AT and not just have people laugh WITH them.
It's not fair.
But that's life and it stays that way. The sooner we accept it, the better. Why is it still difficult? I guess because we all want the lead and strive for it and failure hurts. Second best is not the same. Best in support is good and satisfying but it leaves you striving for more. Some of which you will never get.
Friday, February 27, 2009
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Small wonders!
We are most sensible as babies...we know how to express ourselves without words( certainly know how to make ourselves heard!), we fight for what we want, we spread smiles in an unbiased way to the world, yet we need our family first and recognize that. We love all and everyone loves us. Simple.
Monday, February 16, 2009
Expectations and Limitations
No two people have same expectations.Shouldn't people expect only what they give? But that puzzles also because if they are given more than they would like to give then it isn't it unfair on all concerned parties, even though it's done with good intentions?
Experience or unnecessary risk?
People say you need to gain experience for many things. But in some cases , isn't it similar to cutting your right hand to experience being able to write with the left?
Its' like in life you never know when you jump whether it's bungee jumping or actually a real dive with no security.
So what do you do? Never dive in fear ? Or dive and risk falling?
Its' like in life you never know when you jump whether it's bungee jumping or actually a real dive with no security.
So what do you do? Never dive in fear ? Or dive and risk falling?
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Valentine's day
A day associated by most with having someone to go out with or having someone show you how special you are and vice versa. But there's more to this day. It's about love. And love doesn't always have to expressive . Nor does have to be loud. It's silent, gentle and beautiful. Like a child.
And it's not exclusive . There's always surplus to be shared once you open your hearts to it. It's not limited to that "someone special" though of course having someone to share you entire life with and to love and be loved with that person is the best gift life can give.
But I firmly believe that to start opening ourselves to love, we don't need someone. We just need ourselves. You should be your first Valentine. Who can tell you better about yourself than you can ? Who can know what makes you smile , what makes your heart beat and what makes your face crumble better than yourself?
This Valentine's day, if you have no one to celebrate with, go pamper yourself. Of course if you have someone then the best way to make yourself happy would be to love fully. But one can only love fully when at peace with oneself.......and the world.
And it's not exclusive . There's always surplus to be shared once you open your hearts to it. It's not limited to that "someone special" though of course having someone to share you entire life with and to love and be loved with that person is the best gift life can give.
But I firmly believe that to start opening ourselves to love, we don't need someone. We just need ourselves. You should be your first Valentine. Who can tell you better about yourself than you can ? Who can know what makes you smile , what makes your heart beat and what makes your face crumble better than yourself?
This Valentine's day, if you have no one to celebrate with, go pamper yourself. Of course if you have someone then the best way to make yourself happy would be to love fully. But one can only love fully when at peace with oneself.......and the world.
Saturday, February 07, 2009
Alone or lonely heart?
We all wish to have someone to tell all to understand us inside out. But isn't it also scary because knowing us means knowing our darker side. And is it even plausible? There are so many things which have no reason and just can't be explained...is it even fair to expect anyone to understand them? If we can't expect that, then is the heart supposed to be lonely or in other words self-dependent?
Thursday, February 05, 2009
Why???:P
Just a curiosity ....would like to see some interesting thoughts on the following :
Why do people associate feelings with the heart and not with the brain? How did this thinking start?
Why do people associate feelings with the heart and not with the brain? How did this thinking start?
Friday, January 16, 2009
Queries to all writer and blogger friends
Are writers born, created or can writing also be acquired?
What are most important ingredients for a writer...a novelist in particular?
How do you go about writing a novel? Is it enough to have a story and right emotional quotient?
Doesn't everyone have a story( at least) inside them?
If yes then why is it not expressed?
What are most important ingredients for a writer...a novelist in particular?
How do you go about writing a novel? Is it enough to have a story and right emotional quotient?
Doesn't everyone have a story( at least) inside them?
If yes then why is it not expressed?
Reading and discussions
Discussing novels with someone well read in your domain is almost like discussing people from long ago whom both know well.
Monday, January 05, 2009
A new year
Hmmm ideally this should be my "Happy New Year" post but somehow the seems to have crept by me without me realizing this time.
Been trying to meet deadlines and declutter my room. This gave me an opportunity to walk down years down the memory lane. It's weird..I mean most of us have replied to where you will be 10 years hence soem time of the other....but what about 10 years earlier.
Those dreams, wishes , thoughts and ideals....have they been in fulfilled today or are they lost somewhere?
What I noticed most easily was that it's easier to be good and wise when you are young, innocent and even unhappy. You can get used to it. You can be selfless and have high ideals and just spread love.
But life changes all that. With each blow of betrayal that life throws, you grow a bit more cynical and a bit more "cautious" . And caution makes you selfish. Selfish soemtimes makes you take care of yourself and makes you happier though that shouldn't happen ideally. Once you get used to happiness it's diffrent ball game all together. Then life just moves in that direction.
I was so much wiser and more good 10 years earlier. But I am happier now. Paradox? Life is weird.
Been trying to meet deadlines and declutter my room. This gave me an opportunity to walk down years down the memory lane. It's weird..I mean most of us have replied to where you will be 10 years hence soem time of the other....but what about 10 years earlier.
Those dreams, wishes , thoughts and ideals....have they been in fulfilled today or are they lost somewhere?
What I noticed most easily was that it's easier to be good and wise when you are young, innocent and even unhappy. You can get used to it. You can be selfless and have high ideals and just spread love.
But life changes all that. With each blow of betrayal that life throws, you grow a bit more cynical and a bit more "cautious" . And caution makes you selfish. Selfish soemtimes makes you take care of yourself and makes you happier though that shouldn't happen ideally. Once you get used to happiness it's diffrent ball game all together. Then life just moves in that direction.
I was so much wiser and more good 10 years earlier. But I am happier now. Paradox? Life is weird.
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Whats the best?
Years pass and years go...
Some are fast and some are slow
Each had moments of smiles and tears
Of actualization of dreams as well as fears
Yet its all exciting isn't it?
To have a place where you fit.
To have people to share the new year with
What's better than a family to live with?
Why then do we have to go for work afar?
Why destiny closes the doors that were once ajar?
Is it something just and right?
Or is it something we should fight?
Don't take me away from my nest
Oh please don't put my emotions to test
I don't care what's best
I just want everyday to end in a rest
Some are fast and some are slow
Each had moments of smiles and tears
Of actualization of dreams as well as fears
Yet its all exciting isn't it?
To have a place where you fit.
To have people to share the new year with
What's better than a family to live with?
Why then do we have to go for work afar?
Why destiny closes the doors that were once ajar?
Is it something just and right?
Or is it something we should fight?
Don't take me away from my nest
Oh please don't put my emotions to test
I don't care what's best
I just want everyday to end in a rest
Life Changes, so do people
Life seems to be so easily represented in phases and each phase to meet represents people. Of course some people continue through all phases , for those we are lucky. But there are others whom we wish to stay forever but they don't. Sometimes they never really go away physically and just grow apart. At other times, the physical distance gradually draws you apart. I never expected this but it happens sometimes. It's when changes happen so slowly that you never notice them that they hurt. You don't miss those people, you miss that time, that phase, which can of course never be repeated.
It's like when you go away from college and you continue to meet old friends, it's normal but when you can't even do that, you miss "those days " so much more.
It's the people who make memories not phases. But when people change, you look for good memories in those phases.
Why do people change?
It's like when you go away from college and you continue to meet old friends, it's normal but when you can't even do that, you miss "those days " so much more.
It's the people who make memories not phases. But when people change, you look for good memories in those phases.
Why do people change?
Sunday, December 21, 2008
Love and learn or learn and love...that is the question
What is more important in life? To learn or to love. I would say love. Experiences help us grow and learn but what if they are at the cost of discomfort not just for you but also for loved ones? Then what? Can you assume that loved ones may also need to learn and go along with it or should you assume that nothing can make you grow more than love?
Tagged! 5 Things before I die.....
Been tagged by Geetika. Took many days to get to writing this one. I guess when it comes down to it, somethings are too private to write down here....committing here means I can't run away from them...however will write a few some fun ones and some serious ones..........5 is easier than 10!
1)Read lots and lots with my own private library. Sometimes books are like best friends.
2)Write a book
3)Experience the various flavors of life...
4)Learn lots
5)Love lots
1)Read lots and lots with my own private library. Sometimes books are like best friends.
2)Write a book
3)Experience the various flavors of life...
4)Learn lots
5)Love lots
PDAs
They were a new "couple", even that word seemed foreign that time, but they had starry eyes and they were happy, ohh so blissfully happy with each other. At the same time, they were a couple with values and limits and willingness to follow that.
But they were carefree like kids, walking together holding hands and talking as they walked out of college for the day, both having done well in "final practicals". Suddenly out of no where ,came 3 men and started shouting at them. "Don't you know how to walk in college. Do you think this is a garden?" The spell was broken.
The girl was scared, the guy irritated. Neither was actually "punished", only lectured. Some would say "forget it", it hardly affected them. No, at the practical level it hardly did. But what about their lost peace of mind and lost carefreeness? How does one go about measuring that?
At the same time another solitary girl was walking into the same college being verbally harassed by rude and "suggestive" teacher. But there was no one to help her. There was another group of students "discussing" their exams as the invigilator had conveniently gone out "for a while" . There no one to help the girl and no one to monitor the group may be because the trio was too busy talking about "this generation" not knowing "how to walk".
So through this blog, I am going to be bold enough to say, no I don't feel "Public Displays of Affection"( of such forms) are wrong. In this world full terrorism, why should love be suppressed? Love like laughter is contagious and seeing a couple happy together would make or at least should make people smile and feel good. Yes I agree that there should be limit and intimacies should be avoided and those people discouraged. But why should all others of the generation suffer and be blamed for them? Give them a break, let them enjoy being happy. Hugging someone or holding hands isn't going to kill anyone! Take your time out to catch bigger and more dangerous issues troubling the society.......there are plenty!
But they were carefree like kids, walking together holding hands and talking as they walked out of college for the day, both having done well in "final practicals". Suddenly out of no where ,came 3 men and started shouting at them. "Don't you know how to walk in college. Do you think this is a garden?" The spell was broken.
The girl was scared, the guy irritated. Neither was actually "punished", only lectured. Some would say "forget it", it hardly affected them. No, at the practical level it hardly did. But what about their lost peace of mind and lost carefreeness? How does one go about measuring that?
At the same time another solitary girl was walking into the same college being verbally harassed by rude and "suggestive" teacher. But there was no one to help her. There was another group of students "discussing" their exams as the invigilator had conveniently gone out "for a while" . There no one to help the girl and no one to monitor the group may be because the trio was too busy talking about "this generation" not knowing "how to walk".
So through this blog, I am going to be bold enough to say, no I don't feel "Public Displays of Affection"( of such forms) are wrong. In this world full terrorism, why should love be suppressed? Love like laughter is contagious and seeing a couple happy together would make or at least should make people smile and feel good. Yes I agree that there should be limit and intimacies should be avoided and those people discouraged. But why should all others of the generation suffer and be blamed for them? Give them a break, let them enjoy being happy. Hugging someone or holding hands isn't going to kill anyone! Take your time out to catch bigger and more dangerous issues troubling the society.......there are plenty!
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Goodness of life
It's true...all that you want does come to you!
Ultimately good things do happen even if after long struggle so it's best not to despair but to remember this.
Ultimately good things do happen even if after long struggle so it's best not to despair but to remember this.
Monday, December 08, 2008
True Love
Barbra Streisand depicts true and pure love so beautifully in this song...
Here as I lay beside you, I know
How grateful my heart feels
Knowing that you've come
In my world to stay
Now I know my life has finally begun
That dream, that's promised everyone
Now when the world around me looks gray
I look into your eyes and all the darkness goes
I can find my way
Finally I know I'm never alone
A light inside will lead me home
Remember it's all there is
Remember it's all there was
The answer is right here in our hands
And know if our hearts are true
There's nothing we have to do
You and me for always
Now when I wake each morning I say
No need to look ahead
Leave the past behind
Here's a brand new day
Suddenly my life is perfectly clear
The love we found was always here
Remember it's all there is
Remember it's all there was
The answer is right here in our hands
And know if our hearts are true
There's nothing we have to do
You and me for always
Never ending, never changing
The answer is here in our hands
Always reaching , always climbing
You and me for always
Ever loving, ever lasting
The answer is here in our hands
Always changing, always loving...
If only
It's horrible when people tell you "You should have done this...how could you not do this?"
They make you regret what you have reconciled yourself to. The best thing to do under the circumstances is not to allow them to. There was probably good in whatever happened in whatever way.
They make you regret what you have reconciled yourself to. The best thing to do under the circumstances is not to allow them to. There was probably good in whatever happened in whatever way.
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