Tuesday, September 08, 2009

Aloneness-lonliness-aloneness

Solitude is nice. One who enjoys it the most is the loner. But his journey should not be despised. He has what many carve. Self-dependence. But there are two sides to every coin and one has to experience that in life.

You may think you value your aloneness without being lonely, but you still get used to being around people with time. That time you miss solitude. But when those people go away, suddenly the aloneness that was dear to you becomes loneliness.

The worst kind of loneliness occurs when surrounded by people. But sometimes even that seems better than not having people around you. Living souls are comforting to have as a part of the environment. They don't eliminate your loneliness but they make it less creepy. Yet sometimes they aggravate the situation. They don't understand lonely don't want to be pitied. The only way this helps is you realise you enjoy your solitude more than such favours.

From aloneness to loneliness and back to aloneness. It's a vicious circle.

6 comments:

Ankur said...

Very Complex post I must say....
feeling lonely when with people means that we have become limited to very few people with whom we feel happy .... and only getting along with few people is always critical because at times those few may not want to go away but situation make them away... one should always love solitude but the key to it is one must have to fight with time and deadlines to get the solitude because solitude is to be earn not that we have nothing to do so we have solitude (solitude can't be that easy)... and when we mix loneliness with solitude loneliness always wins because negative things came first to mind when we are disturbed... Dear one should also understand that someone is missing them it's a mistake .... but mistake can happen by anyone...
But there is also one lesson in that we should not extend our criticality to such an extend that be easily become loner because it hurts the dear ones as well

Bhushan said...

profound. Need I say more? :P

Tapasya said...

Very nice post...life is weird. And as you said in the prev post- Nothing lasts forever. Par phir season, reason, lifetime ka kya?

Anyway, reminds me of Dev Anand's song Phoolon ke Rang Se:
"
Chhota safar ho, lamba safar ho, sooni dagar ho ya mela...
Yaad tu aaye, mann ho jaaye bheed ke beech akela"

Phoenix said...

Deja vu. Happened to me too often. But the circle does break out once in a while, though smtimes it does relapse too.

aditi said...

Reply[Ankur]
Very complex comment I must say...it just happens at times...one can't prevent it..

[Bhushan]Nope:)

[Taps]It's all very confusing at times. I don't know if "lifetime" is true but I feel it should be...
Not heard the song but lyrics are very apt..

[Phoneix]Very true...we can have a perfectly normal time until the circle comes out of nowhere

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