Friday, April 13, 2007

Self dependence

In this world every man IS ultimately an island in a way...ultimately we are all alone.....maybe not alone as in lonely but as in we are or should be self contained....Self dependent....independent....


Change is the only thing constant in this world.Nothing lasts forever yet life continues.

Thus there is a great need to be independent.To be dependent on any person,situation or thing for happiness would stunt the soul from flowing freely and would make it difficult for the world that surround also...that burden of carrying dependence .

More than the above,its a matter of responsibility....we are all responsible for our own emotions ....happiness or sadness.We shouldn't expect external environment to change us internally.

This doesn't mean we don't get attached,it doesn't mean we don't trust ,it doesn't mean we don't love or live life fully in any way...it just means that our inner strength should be what should remain the same....and what we should rely on t0 sail us through difficulties.And should relaise that to experience life ..happiness and even pain is good...its a part of life...a part of our lives and we alone are responsible for it.So no blaming in times of trouble or going overboard in happiness.
This image on the left shows what i mean by dependence...in the first picture..a leaning line ona staright line...ultmiately either the leaning one would fall or the straight one would collapse under its weightThe rest 2 can interpreted as readers want.There is no right or wrong in this case.Just as long as no separated parallel lines...then its some way towards attachment...but not dependence.

Its good to take a break from the world every now and then...and be alone...listen to your inner voice and experience the peace around you.To take pride in your hobbies .....what you do out of joy...not out of compulsion or to attain a level of perfection.Sometimes its good to be passive also.

11 comments:

Ankur said...

Very nicely written again!!!
It's good to be self dependent but always remember what you have written in between "This doesn't mean we don't get attached,it doesn't mean we don't trust ,it doesn't mean we don't love or live life fully in any way...it just means that our inner strength should be what should remain the same...." and rest will be good Best of luck

Tapasya said...

Well, the post's nice and all, but I have a question. Have you learnt to be self dependent? I havent. Its not about the attachments and the world, if you put in some more thought, you'll realise that the whole issue zeros in to Self Acceptance. Whatever, the whole philosophy behind the self is beyond my understanding abilities. I hate the word 'self'.

Tapasya said...

Happy Anniversary btw! Your first blog was posted on 12th of april. An year has swiped past us, yet again.

aditi said...

Reply[Ankur]
Ya dats true also....inner strength can only further strength relations in the world becoz only when we are ourselves strong and are self dependent,can we truly know what matters to us and what we just hold on to out of habits or dependence.So by strengthening oursleves,we strengthen those bonds also

aditi said...

Reply[taps]
It varies really...sometimes i feel more self relient and sometimes not at all...and ultimately if i cant accept myself,i feel noone can so that leads to complexties even if they do....and evn to overcome those i have to learn to accept myself.

Prasoon said...

I get self dependent when i am hurt and otherwise, i look for happiness in others. Its bad I know and am helpless :|

aditi said...

Reply[Prasoon]
i know..thats a very natural thing to happen but if when things are going your way,for once u still persist to find happiness in your own being,it will help.Its difficult but it is possible i feel.And noone is helpless unless they decide to be.

Anushree said...

Well... true... dat we should keep on taking a break from the wrold every now and then to listen to our own hearty, and undertstand the pace of our own soul...

It gets too distracting at times to listen to what everybody is speaking and react to it!!!!

All we need is peace which comes from our own heart.. only when we understand its core and let ourselves react accordingly!!!!

Its goo to meet sumone who understands the basics of life!!!

aditi said...

Reply[Anushree]
hi...r u the anushree from MSIT?
welcome to my blog:)
Glad to know u feel i know a bit about basics of life.
Yes at times the world and its thoughts crowd our mind too much...too much clutter accummulates and then we crave for piece.

Anushree said...

No.. I am not the Anushree from MSIT.... i came across ur blog thru sum link... u write well!!!

aditi said...

reply[Anushree]thanx:) nice to hear that and nice to get ur comments:)