Friendship and sacrifice

"If there was just 1 seat available for a job, would either you or your best friend be willing to give it up for the other if one wanted it a little more but both had nothing in hand?"
"No"
"Then you shouldn't call each other friends. Only competitors".

So many time sit happens, something rattles our very soul because we don't have an answer that particular time. Blog is helpful this way. I would like to answer something a bit similar".
No, I don't believe either of them needs to give up for the other and I don't think either would expect that also. Simply because I don't believe friendship means sacrifice to this level. Not in today's world. To help one another is one thing. To give your time is also fine. But there is a limit beyond which you only do things for family. Because that's where you belong. They represent you. Friends don't, even if that seems harsh to some. So if you are asked to give up something which could hurt your family, even if just feelings-wise, or something which goes against what you feel you are meant to do, then I feel it's ok to refuse. Work is also apart of you, and if you love your work then it would be injustice to yourself to lose out on it.

And I don't believe friendship can't have competition. I used to hate competition. Maybe i still do. But I realize one can't exist without it. But it is possible to have a co-operative kind of competition with each helping the other. In that all can win to some level. But withdrawl is not an option. Neither is giving your best or seizing the opportunity bad. It's only bad when you push someone deliberately. It's also bad when you turn a blind eye to someone who has fallen. But not otherwise.

It's different world. Sacrifice is exists but it need not be unlimited.

Speedpost

Been reading Shobha De's Speedpost. In it , the author writes letters to her children on various issues of everyday life, things she couldn't tell , things to be remembered.

I thought of saying it's not a common novel but then no novel is common. There is at least one person who enjoys and even loves any particular novel.

But this one is a must read. It would do well as a family reading also....hmmm...that's a new concept that needs to be explored....

Here are a few thoughts that I really liked from it (black portions are explanatory, rest is quoted) :


Who cares if you follow social norms at the expense of our loved ones? Nobody does. Then why do we do it?Because we adults are cowards. We get our priorities wrong. We give undue importance to unimportant things. Basically we are fools.

Women are not encouraged to display overt emotions, especially if they are negative - never mind their validity or context. ....i resent the idea that I have to be calm, composed, an angel of good humour at all times ............it's unrealistic.


Do childrens' calls have to deal with emergencies? Can they not be about sharing a small moment, a thought, a feeling? Yes, it's extravagant but for me it's essential to stay in touch and any price is worth that electric charge that I get when, in a strange city at an odd hour in an unfamiliar setting, the shrill of a cellphone nestling in my handbag galvanizes me into action.

I regret that you don't have a dish that you associate exclusively with me.

In my anxiety to keep up with your world.....but I should have invested the same amount of time drawing you into our world, your grandmothers' and mine. Then we could have participated in each others' world more fully, more completely.

It's such a warm, comforting thought to that there are at least three individuals in the world who know you inside out and what's more , accept you exactly the way you are.They have seen you at your worst... Nobody had judged you. You have slipped up, been insensitive...Oh well, these things happen.

How could she possibly know the pleasure of hearing high-pitched voices coming home joyfully, knowing with certainty that their mother would be there to greet them?


You will do fine...even if you a get a little less marks...I want you to look at the bigger picture. To learn to be curious, to be alive, to absorb, to enjoy.

It wasn't the question of defiance alone. I preferred to make my own mistakes.

...how much more fun it is if you're lucky to be married to someone who shares your progress with you, enjoys the journey with equally and is there to hold your hand every step of the way and say 'Bravo' when you succeed and 'Don't worry' when you fail.

Will add more ....this book is one to be absorbed...not just read.

200 posts and going......

It's been a while. No, I still haven't got in touch with myself. Sometimes it's not so easy. When did studies start? School? College? Grad school? At least after two years of "proper work", it's difficult to suddenly realize you are "free". Free from what? The daily schedule becomes a part of you. It difficult to suddenly get to know that you can no longer come your college, that you have no work for at least a few weeks or maybe a month. My friend maybe rightly called it the "IIT withdrawl symptoms". But it makes you feel old. As a child I always used to ask people, when do you finally grow up? Hmmm....maybe never at heart. But here are a few symtoms when you can safely consider yourself grown up in the eyes of the world, whether you like it or not :

• When the average age of crickters is less than yours. (it really came as a shock to me!)
• When your peers start getting married.....a weird nostalgia and refusal to accept the situation will overwhelm you
• When you can no longer delay deciding what you will do for the rest of your life. When you talk of further studies, suddenly people think you have gone crazy. But well that's the one thing I know I like doing and it feels safe. Do people still study just for the sake of learning and instead of career opportunities?
• When you realise you are too old for certain of your dreams. OK so you are never too old but ya, you would no longer be appreciated for a particular mastery.
  
• When you yourself wonder about married life and accept or fear it not as some"maybe" in distant future but as a reality.
• When you worry that you really will never grow up despite your age :( . I mean parents pamper you most of your life and now someday you would be expected to follow those footsteps, be responsible for not just yourself.No more tantrums or sulkings. Be an adult in real life. It's chilling!

Any suggestions?
One thing that doesn't make me feel so is that this is my 200th post :)Long live blogging!

Let me get in touch with myself before I get in touch with the rest of the world....

What a happy birthday:)

As you can guess it was my birthday today.....and what a day!
Generally I avoid writing personal stuff in blogs but this one for all those who have been part of it...especially...some special few ...the fantastic five.............
or......................... the sensational six if I include myself :P

Imagine having a birthday and almost no one wishing you at midnight except ... lets leave it at 'except...' :D
Well that's how it started. It gave me a chance to introspect ...I mean it had never happened before...! The first thing you feel in such times is to hold onto those ones. Sometimes you take them for granted, but at moments like this you realize this, you realize yet again how lucky you are to have them. At least I did. And I realized yet again that happiness is actually only defined because you can share it.

The next thing that came to mind was guilt. Birthday to me reflects how much people value your presence. This particular semester has been a whirlpool of activities ...on family front...in more ways than one!, sickness front and then catching up on work later on.......and somehow with all that, I didn't or couldn't give too much time to friends. ..I was there yet I wasn't there! I of course planned to change that soon....

Friends provide a support system, without which, at some level you do fall. And it's a system, not one or two but all close ones matter. Maybe the level of closeness is different but each is special and very much required in their own way.

Well to cut a long story short, I learnt my lesson but the day turned to be all I could have wished for and more! I was surprised and pampered and well my birthday turned out in a way that was just completely me ....during thoughtful efforts of all mentioned above:) I mean it was a celebration which would have made me proud if I had thought of it...and yes I love planning out suhc things....but it's an entirely different feeling to get your kind of thoughts getting implemented on you:) The personalised touch, the surprise factor, the beautiful gifts...and great company...just perfect:) A scrapbook containing special photos and comments and thoughts from friends...well it's a treasured gift... an almost sureshot lift-me-up any down or doubtful moments.

And yes, I got calls from all I expected during the course of the day .....was specially touched by the conversation shared by a very old friend....sometimes you grow apart and have almost nothing in common except history and still that's still enough.

.........and was treated like a little princess and loved like a child at home ! And home is also where the heart is...if you get my drift :)

You busy?

"The time to take the time is when you don't have time for it."

Agree 100 percent. And we always do manage to take time for things that matter to us...sooner or later. We don't find time, we make time.

Jaane Kya Sochkar Nahin Guzra..........

Beautiful song.........


Jaane Kya Sochkar Nahin Guzra
Ik Pal Raat Bhar Nahin Guzra

Apni Tanhai Kaa Auron Se Na Shikva Karna - 2
Tum Akele Hi Nahin Ho Sabhi Akele Hain
Ye Akela Safar Nahin Guzra
Jaane Kya Sochkar Nahin Guzra
Ek Pal Raat Bhar Nahin Guzra

Do Ghadi Jeene Ki Mohalat To Mili Hai Sabko - 2
Tum Bhi Mil Jaao Ghadi Bhar To Ye Gam Hota Hai
Is Ghadi Ka Safar Nahin Guzra
Jaane Kya Sochkar Nahin Guzra
Ek Pal Raat Bhar Nahin Guzra
Jaane Kya Sochkar Nahin Guzra

Sometimes listen to what I say not

Sometimes listen to what I say not
Sometimes feel what I dare express not
Sometimes stay when i say go away
Sometimes persist when I say "leave it".

All is not easy to say
I fear being brushed away
Deep within me lies a curse
A curse called dependence

Accept it i you can
Don't ignore it
Free me from it
And I am yours

Not an easy I task I agree
But who can do it but a genie
Set me free
Either release me from its bond
Or release the bond from me
Both i will accept completely

Instinct

People say "create a new way". People say "You have to take risks in order to learn". Same as" You must move out of your comfort zone to grow".

I agreed with all of it.

But ultimately we have to do what is right for us. Not what seems "good" or "exciting" or even "stable".

Instinct is what God whispers into your heart. Follow it.

Love is inspiration

People say love is blind, but that in a very unique way also makes love the best type of inspiration. If you aren't what/where you feel someone sees you, you feel inspired enough to get there. It's enough just to know that someone believes so much....

Here are the lyrics of a beautiful song which depicts this to me...

Tu Hai Aasmaan Main Teri Yeh Zameen Hai
Tu Jo Hai To Sab Kuch Hai Na Koi Kami Hai
Tu Hai Aasmaan Main Teri Yeh Zameen Hai
Tu Jo Hai To Sab Kuch Hai Na Koi Kami Hai
Tu Hi Dil Hai Tu Hi Jaan Bhi Hai
Tu Khushi Hai Aasra Bhi Hai
Teri Chaahat Zindagi Hai
Tu Mohabbat Tu Aashiqui Hai Tu Aashiqui Hai
Tu Hi Dil Hai Tu Hi Jaan Bhi Hai
Tu Khushi Hai Aasra Bhi Hai
Teri Chahat Zindagi Hai
Tu Mohabbat Tu Aashiqui Hai Tu Aashiqui Hai
Tu Aashiqui Hai Tu Aashiqui Hai

Pyaar Mein Hi Dhoondhta Hoon
Pyaar Se Hi Poojta Hoon Tujhe
Pyaar Mein Hi Dhoondhte Hai
Pyaar Se Hi Poojte Hai Tujhe
Tera Chehra Roshni Hai
Tu Mohabbat Tu Aashiqui Hai Tu Aashiqui Hai
Tu Hai Aasmaan Main Teri Yeh Zameen Hai
Tu Jo Hai To Sab Kuch Hai Na Koi Kami Hai
Tu Hi Dil Hai Tu Hi Jaan Bhi Hai
Tu Khushi Hai Aasra Bhi Hai
Teri Chaahat Zindagi Hai
Tu Mohabbat Tu Aashiqui Hai Tu Aashiqui Hai

Har Safar Mein Har Nazar Mein
Har Sahar Main Dekhta Hoon Tujhe
Har Safar Mein Har Nazar Mein
Har Sahar Main Dekhte Hai Tujhe
Pyaar Hai Jo Tu Wohi Hai
Tu Mohabbat Tu Aashiqui Hai Tu Aashiqui Hai
Tu Hai Aasmaan Main Teri Yeh Zameen Hai

Tu Jo Hai To Sab Kuch Hai Na Koi Kami Hai
Tu Hi Dil Hai Tu Hi Jaan Bhi Hai
Tu Khushi Hai Aasra Bhi Hai
Teri Chaahat Zindagi Hai
Tu Mohabbat Tu Aashiqui Hai Tu Aashiqui Hai
Tu Mohabbat Tu Aashiqui Hai Tu Aashiqui Hai
Tu Aashiqui Hai Tu Aashiqui Hai
Tu Aashiqui Hai

Random Thoughts

One bitten , always shy.

Some cracks and scars never disappear.

Sayings

So true!!!Some quotes are gems........

Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: "What! You, too?
Thought I was the only one."
~C.S. Lewis

Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live....Unknown

Panch Sawal!

• Can right ever be done in a slightly wrong way?
• Is honesty always the best policy?
• Is it really required to kill your happiness to be right always? If it is then why don't I agree ?
• Why do people say we shouldn't have desires? What else do we live for?
• What's the best way to make any decision
  

Ek sawal

Ab yahan tak aa gaye hain , ab kidhar jaayen?

To you with love

Each person who has shared a deep conversation (even if once) with us or has been part of our lives for no matter how small a duration, gets added to life's history, our memories and also our heart. This one is for my people....right from the friends I had in nursery to the people with whom things couldn't work out, to the people with whom I shared just a few good moments to the ones I love. I am glad you were/are a part of my life. You all made me learn something, about life and about myself.

• Maybe we talk everyday and you know I appreciate you, still what's the harm in a reminder? You are the best!
  
• Maybe we talk/meet talk everyday but I am too in awe to tell you that I appreciate you..please understand it still. This one is esp true for elders+ teachers. I also respect you.
• Maybe we keep in touch occasionally but are still close...all know that I do value our time together and miss you and feel good to still be in touch
• Maybe we were once close but now don't talk anymore...please know that in life, somethings just don't work out. That doesn't mean that I don't care . I carry memories with me and cherish them still.
  
• Maybe we once had a wonderful single conversation/ shared a few good times ( tough not close ones) ..You made me learn vital things about myself and the world and I appreciate it and you are not forgotten
  
• Maybe we are blogger friends...You support my self expression and make me learn new lessons regularly and are good listeners.
• Maybe I don't even know you but you wrote something I loved... I appreciate it coz novels are almost like friends at times.

Maybe that's why I like social networking sites. They connect us to our world....all aspects are connected together. There so many people in my friends list whom I rarely talk to but it's nice to see what's happening in their life still and be in occasional touch.


Maybe the world is like a wardrobe of ours, we don't wear all clothes always. Some are essentials. Some are our favourites. We grow too old for some.Some are not fancy but just comfortable. We need them. Some are frilly ones which don't last more than a single wearing. But they all covered us at some time.

Tagged!...Little things that piss me off

This tag came from Geetika. Here I go........


1) Unwelcome critics-People who are sooo generous with their criticism about your personal habits or just about anything when noone has actually asked their opinion. And they don't realise it can hurt at times. For the record, I am happy with myself and if I am not, I will ask for your valuable opinions when I need them.

2)Topper worship-Just because someone is great in one field or even aspect of life, it doesn't mean that they are out of this world. And just because someone is OK in a field , it odesn't mena they can't excel in another.

3)No reply-When people who don't reply to official mails. Come onn, a no doesn't take that long. Why keep anyone hanging?

4) This is sooo girly-What else do you expect? Hello! I am a girl. And liking romantic novels certainly doesn't mean I don't read anything else! Some of them life's best lessons...if you can't appreciate anything but philosophical ones, then that's nothing to be proud of. It's just choice.

5)Division-In this day and age people still talk of casteism and all that. I mean how can you generalise anyone but a name? Every person is unique.


I tag Taps, Ankur and whoever else wants to take it.

Love and.....................chess!

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.....................playing chess with each other ,aiding the other to win and ending in a draw!

Thought

Abstinence is easier than moderation

Food

It's strange how much food affects your life........it defines your mood and all sorts of quality times.....like your entire lifestyle!
Family times together would be over a reassuring cup of tea or a ritual of dinner together. You bond with friends particular outlets....maybe at "Barista's Dark Temptation" or maybe just at Mc D...whatever!
Going out means you will eat something interesting an daring or something tried and tested.
Some types of food items become "comfort foods"...munch chocolate of chips over a movie/novel when upset!
Celebration means going out to your fav restaurant usually.

And at the end of the day what do you get? Excess weight and fat ...........and suddenly you can't have any of it! It requires a whole lifestyle change to eat healthy!

But then sometimes that can also be worth it...especially if you start healthy eating together with a few close ones. It gives you a chance to explore more in life. It's worth a try.

Brida

It's amazing how some books manage to give you new insight to life each time you read them..like brida......read it just the second time and already devoting another post to it........especially want to share a few of the beautiful quotes from it....

"Anyone who tries to possess a flower will have to watch its beauty fading. But if you simply look at a flower in a field, you will keep it forever, because the flower is part of the evening and the sunset and the smell of damp earth and the clouds on the horizon"


"All wines should be tasted; some should only be sipped, but with others, drink the whole bottle..................... You can only know a good wine if you have tasted a bad one"

Between Friends

Between Friends!

I will say no more!

Life was good again

It had been a frustrating day and week. No one appreciated her hard work or talent. It was always someone else who made it to the top. She had been sick. She had been confused. And she had been angry and irritable. Gudia felt that any minute now she would burst. And now when she finally wanted to relax with her love, she got a call for a sudden meeting. There really seemed to be no justice! Her though, patient as always, told her to take her time and he would be waiting nearby. It took her half an hour and one agrument to get back. Only now she couldn't reach her love's number-- and soon she would have to go home ! This wasn' t the first time. His phone hadn't been working for sometime now. But at that moment it was all that was needed to push her to the edge.

There he came smiling...and she fumed and shouted "Why don't you just throw your phone away?"
Plonk!!!!
Down went the phone on the road.
Gudia felt stunned but rescued it in time.
"What did you do that for? Are you crazy?"
"You said throw it away. :)"
"But it could have broken..." Gudia said still stunned.
"So what? It's just a phone.....that should be thrown away." He winked.

Suddenly Gudia smiled and relaxed...who could be hyper when they had such sweet love? What more could one ask for? Life was good again.

Life can be harsh but sometimes little spontaneous acts of love/craziness/kindness are all that we require to get us back to our senses and back to face reality.

Supporting roles

Some people always stay in "supporting roles".They are not made to play the lead no matter what. They are either nice and likable or just funny. And that's all they ever will be.
Just like comedians WILL get laughed AT and not just have people laugh WITH them.
It's not fair.
But that's life and it stays that way. The sooner we accept it, the better. Why is it still difficult? I guess because we all want the lead and strive for it and failure hurts. Second best is not the same. Best in support is good and satisfying but it leaves you striving for more. Some of which you will never get.

Small wonders!

We are most sensible as babies...we know how to express ourselves without words( certainly know how to make ourselves heard!), we fight for what we want, we spread smiles in an unbiased way to the world, yet we need our family first and recognize that. We love all and everyone loves us. Simple.

Expectations and Limitations

No two people have same expectations.Shouldn't people expect only what they give? But that puzzles also because if they are given more than they would like to give then it isn't it unfair on all concerned parties, even though it's done with good intentions?

Experience or unnecessary risk?

People say you need to gain experience for many things. But in some cases , isn't it similar to cutting your right hand to experience being able to write with the left?
Its' like in life you never know when you jump whether it's bungee jumping or actually a real dive with no security.
So what do you do? Never dive in fear ? Or dive and risk falling?

Valentine's day

A day associated by most with having someone to go out with or having someone show you how special you are and vice versa. But there's more to this day. It's about love. And love doesn't always have to expressive . Nor does have to be loud. It's silent, gentle and beautiful. Like a child.
And it's not exclusive . There's always surplus to be shared once you open your hearts to it. It's not limited to that "someone special" though of course having someone to share you entire life with and to love and be loved with that person is the best gift life can give.
But I firmly believe that to start opening ourselves to love, we don't need someone. We just need ourselves. You should be your first Valentine. Who can tell you better about yourself than you can ? Who can know what makes you smile , what makes your heart beat and what makes your face crumble better than yourself?

This Valentine's day, if you have no one to celebrate with, go pamper yourself. Of course if you have someone then the best way to make yourself happy would be to love fully. But one can only love fully when at peace with oneself.......and the world.

Alone or lonely heart?

We all wish to have someone to tell all to understand us inside out. But isn't it also scary because knowing us means knowing our darker side. And is it even plausible? There are so many things which have no reason and just can't be explained...is it even fair to expect anyone to understand them? If we can't expect that, then is the heart supposed to be lonely or in other words self-dependent?

Why???:P

Just a curiosity ....would like to see some interesting thoughts on the following :

Why do people associate feelings with the heart and not with the brain? How did this thinking start?

Queries to all writer and blogger friends

Are writers born, created or can writing also be acquired?

What are most important ingredients for a writer...a novelist in particular?

How do you go about writing a novel? Is it enough to have a story and right emotional quotient?

Doesn't everyone have a story( at least) inside them?
If yes then why is it not expressed?

Reading and discussions

Discussing novels with someone well read in your domain is almost like discussing people from long ago whom both know well.

A new year

Hmmm ideally this should be my "Happy New Year" post but somehow the seems to have crept by me without me realizing this time.

Been trying to meet deadlines and declutter my room. This gave me an opportunity to walk down years down the memory lane. It's weird..I mean most of us have replied to where you will be 10 years hence soem time of the other....but what about 10 years earlier.
Those dreams, wishes , thoughts and ideals....have they been in fulfilled today or are they lost somewhere?
What I noticed most easily was that it's easier to be good and wise when you are young, innocent and even unhappy. You can get used to it. You can be selfless and have high ideals and just spread love.
But life changes all that. With each blow of betrayal that life throws, you grow a bit more cynical and a bit more "cautious" . And caution makes you selfish. Selfish soemtimes makes you take care of yourself and makes you happier though that shouldn't happen ideally. Once you get used to happiness it's diffrent ball game all together. Then life just moves in that direction.

I was so much wiser and more good 10 years earlier. But I am happier now. Paradox? Life is weird.

Whats the best?

Years pass and years go...
Some are fast and some are slow
Each had moments of smiles and tears
Of actualization of dreams as well as fears

Yet its all exciting isn't it?
To have a place where you fit.
To have people to share the new year with
What's better than a family to live with?

Why then do we have to go for work afar?
Why destiny closes the doors that were once ajar?
Is it something just and right?
Or is it something we should fight?

Don't take me away from my nest
Oh please don't put my emotions to test
I don't care what's best
I just want everyday to end in a rest

Life Changes, so do people

Life seems to be so easily represented in phases and each phase to meet represents people. Of course some people continue through all phases , for those we are lucky. But there are others whom we wish to stay forever but they don't. Sometimes they never really go away physically and just grow apart. At other times, the physical distance gradually draws you apart. I never expected this but it happens sometimes. It's when changes happen so slowly that you never notice them that they hurt. You don't miss those people, you miss that time, that phase, which can of course never be repeated.

It's like when you go away from college and you continue to meet old friends, it's normal but when you can't even do that, you miss "those days " so much more.

It's the people who make memories not phases. But when people change, you look for good memories in those phases.

Why do people change?

Love and learn or learn and love...that is the question

What is more important in life? To learn or to love. I would say love. Experiences help us grow and learn but what if they are at the cost of discomfort not just for you but also for loved ones? Then what? Can you assume that loved ones may also need to learn and go along with it or should you assume that nothing can make you grow more than love?

Tagged! 5 Things before I die.....

Been tagged by Geetika. Took many days to get to writing this one. I guess when it comes down to it, somethings are too private to write down here....committing here means I can't run away from them...however will write a few some fun ones and some serious ones..........5 is easier than 10!

1)Read lots and lots with my own private library. Sometimes books are like best friends.

2)Write a book

3)Experience the various flavors of life...

4)Learn lots

5)Love lots

PDAs

They were a new "couple", even that word seemed foreign that time, but they had starry eyes and they were happy, ohh so blissfully happy with each other. At the same time, they were a couple with values and limits and willingness to follow that.
But they were carefree like kids, walking together holding hands and talking as they walked out of college for the day, both having done well in "final practicals". Suddenly out of no where ,came 3 men and started shouting at them. "Don't you know how to walk in college. Do you think this is a garden?" The spell was broken.
The girl was scared, the guy irritated. Neither was actually "punished", only lectured. Some would say "forget it", it hardly affected them. No, at the practical level it hardly did. But what about their lost peace of mind and lost carefreeness? How does one go about measuring that?

At the same time another solitary girl was walking into the same college being verbally harassed by rude and "suggestive" teacher. But there was no one to help her. There was another group of students "discussing" their exams as the invigilator had conveniently gone out "for a while" . There no one to help the girl and no one to monitor the group may be because the trio was too busy talking about "this generation" not knowing "how to walk".

So through this blog, I am going to be bold enough to say, no I don't feel "Public Displays of Affection"( of such forms) are wrong. In this world full terrorism, why should love be suppressed? Love like laughter is contagious and seeing a couple happy together would make or at least should make people smile and feel good. Yes I agree that there should be limit and intimacies should be avoided and those people discouraged. But why should all others of the generation suffer and be blamed for them? Give them a break, let them enjoy being happy. Hugging someone or holding hands isn't going to kill anyone! Take your time out to catch bigger and more dangerous issues troubling the society.......there are plenty!

Goodness of life

It's true...all that you want does come to you!
Ultimately good things do happen even if after long struggle so it's best not to despair but to remember this.

True Love

Barbra Streisand depicts true and pure love so beautifully in this song...

Here as I lay beside you, I know
How grateful my heart feels
Knowing that you've come
In my world to stay
Now I know my life has finally begun
That dream, that's promised everyone
Now when the world around me looks gray
I look into your eyes and all the darkness goes
I can find my way
Finally I know I'm never alone
A light inside will lead me home
Remember it's all there is
Remember it's all there was
The answer is right here in our hands
And know if our hearts are true
There's nothing we have to do
You and me for always
Now when I wake each morning I say
No need to look ahead
Leave the past behind
Here's a brand new day
Suddenly my life is perfectly clear
The love we found was always here
Remember it's all there is
Remember it's all there was
The answer is right here in our hands
And know if our hearts are true
There's nothing we have to do
You and me for always
Never ending, never changing
The answer is here in our hands
Always reaching , always climbing
You and me for always
Ever loving, ever lasting
The answer is here in our hands
Always changing, always loving...

After even the coldest winter comes spring.......read it somewhere and loved it.So true.

If only

It's horrible when people tell you "You should have done this...how could you not do this?"
They make you regret what you have reconciled yourself to. The best thing to do under the circumstances is not to allow them to. There was probably good in whatever happened in whatever way.

Things do work out in the end somehow.....
But it's still as difficult to realize that earlier

Good lesson

"Always look for simple solutions. And learn to focus on solutions, not on problems."
Read this somewhere and liked it. It makes sense. It's just that we forget it at times.

Cheer up!

OK so how can I avoid the tradition of not blogging when I am busiest?
This one comes after long time. And I have nothing to write.
It can happen sometimes that you take yourself too seriously and that can be very harmful because if you look for reasons as to why you are upset, you find 10 more which you didn't know and you will go down further. This is a continual process.
Whats helps more is to pamper yourself and look out for something nice. Forget what others should or shouldn't do. Vent out all and let go.
What I have learnt again and again is that it's best to speak out then let things eat you away.
In comments I want more "good cheer up tricks".
I am making a start :
1) A good long conversation
2) A good big hug (no don't wink, I mean by parents :P)
3) A good novel.....sigh!
4) Chocolate
5) Work...yes work satisfaction is a great high!
6) Going out if time permits
7)A good new dress
8) Window shopping also does the trick for me!
9)Cricket...it inspires...provided India wins :P

10) Doodling, be it of any form also works its wonders...c pic in right!

Careful!

Being careful is very important! Everywhere.

Better be over-precautious than wind up making some mistake you will always regret.

But then CAN everyone be careful? And doesn't the stress of it affect our living sometimes?

Can't there be some guidelines to be followed for it?

Terrorism

This comes a bit late but didn't know what to write about this subject yet couldn't leave it either.
The point is, we don't really know how to react. Only those who are directly affected know what they have lost. And some are not even alive to know that anymore. And they were innocent bystanders. With friends. With families. With work. With dreams and wishes. With a reason to celebrate and shop in this case. And suddenly it's doomsday. And so on for their families also because family is also a living unit and each part is connected to other parts. Yes time heals everything. I still don't understand how but I have to believe that it does. But questions aren't wounds to be healed. I mean who can answer the "whys"?

No, terrorism doesn't really create "terror" anymore. People don't really get scared. They take part in the drama. They sypathise. And they move on. Except a few who probably can never. So what's the purpose? Why don't they ever go and kill the people who do affect them? And why don't they go and kill the devil inside themselves?

Ok, I know it's wistful thinking.sigh.

What who where when why?

What would you do,
If time was more and tasks few?
If you got bored someday out of the blue?
If all days were old and nothing was new?

What would you say,
If after long to God you would pray?
If you had wasted many a day,
If you felt as if left you had gone astray?

Who would you hold,
If in public you could kiss?
If to hug loved ones you were enough bold?
If you could choose between another miss and bliss?

Where would you go?
If you didn't want to go with the flow?
If the way to your heart you didn't know?
If you had to risk all to glow?

Where would you look?
If you felt even in yourself a slight crook?
If there were no answers in any book?
If your inadequacies even loved one wouldn't brook?

When would you get up?
If everyone saw you drop?
If you could still relax with a bed and a tea cup?
If you could choose when to move on and when to stop?

Yet,why wouldn't you live,
If your heart is still positive?
If you still feel you have something to give?
If someone still finds your smile curative?

Fury

Oh mightiest fury,
Thou hath no charm to me.
Nor will thine place exist in GOD's jury,
So haunt me no longer i plea.

Right or wrong

There seems to be no absolute "right". It amazes me how our views change from what we find wrong until we are in a similar situation and wonder why we didn't give others the benefit of doubt. But what's confusing is this way it can get difficult to know what to do. It only helps in telling us to be less judgemental about others.

I remember my very wise Sanskrit teacher once telling us about"Vivek" -the ability to know right from wrong-which distinguishes humans from non-humans. How does that come into play now.I wish I could ask her:( Some teachers are too good to be ever forgotten and I have been very lucky to have many such supporting my throughout my career...even now...they play a "too vital" role. I mean I have never been an extrovert but these gem of people draw can you out and there no need of personal talk or nonsense chitchat. Sometimes pure understanding and relations require very few words. I guess sometimes I remember my teachers more than friends, from childhood, except few close ones.

Teaching Assistants

Teaching Assistantship is like nurturing flower buds....protecting them from weeds and some insects but not all.....being gentle but not completely so...allowing them the space to grow....isolating the ones which may need more attention....
It's a big responsibility but the flowers produced are worth it...though they belong to the owner and not to the gardner nurtured them!

And who can know better than students what new students need...esp those lil quiet and maybe lil slow ones...guidance can do wonders I believe and so can encouragement...esp in those initial steps...

I love it!

Love and friendship

Nothing can be better than having someone with whom you can share anything in the world and to feel safe and know that they understand

Do terrorists have no conscience?

Do terrorists have no conscience? And if they do then how can they live with themselves after killing people...people who they never even knew?
And if they do then are so brainwashed that they believe they are doing right? Are they actually mad?
If so should they be pitied?
I mean you are only wrong if you know that you doing wrong and you continue to do so...
So should the people who train be blamed? Do they do this for private gains? Who is to blame and how can religion be responsible? I mean anyone who believes in God sincerely would realise that religion is something sacred and private and universal. Religions are just different ways of communicating with God. But even the heart is enough for that. To listen your conscience is the truest religion.God cannot like his own creations being harmed...least of all by themselves.
Why don't people understand this simple truth. It's so sad and yet mind boggling.

Andar se yeh awaz aayi hai

Hanste hanste bhi zindagi bhi mein ek khamoshi si chhai hai
Naa jaane kahanse is bheed mein aayi yeh tanhaai hai

Bhaagte bhaagte ek thakaan si aayi hai
Theher ke dekho kabhi, kahan khogayi apni hi parchhayi hai

Har kaamyabi ke piche koi na koi hansi murjaayi hai
Aage badte badte kyunki guzare zamane ki pukar yeh hawa laayi hai?

Sabkuch hote hue kyun kabhi aankhon mein ek nami aayi hai?
kyun rehti hai talash waisi jo kabhi naa poori ho paayi hai?

Apni dil ki gunj to chipaaye na chip paayi hai
Bhulte nhi bhulati kuch baatien yeh aaj fir kaisi yaad aayi hai?

Waqt ne fir yeh kaisi bhuli hui dhun sunayi hai?
Judi hai humse jo yaadein vo kuch chahyi anchahyin hai

Suraj ke hote hue bhi roshni mein parchayi hai
Raasta seedha tha par fir kyun itni thokkar humne khaayi hai?

Andar se yeh awaz aayi hai
Shayad thoda deere hai chalna humein jisse asmaan na sahi , zameen to nazar mein aayi hai.

Movies and Novels...

Learning is what you remember after you have forgotten...
Read lots of novels...wanted to share two...
To kill a mockingbird....Fell below my expectations but loved this sentence...
"I didn't love reading. You don't love to breathe".

Next one...Witch of Portobello and Brida...selected lots of quotes in them...will pen them sometime but too lazy right now....

But what I remember most has almost nothing to do with the theme but it stuck to me( maybe not exactly same words)....
"Do not be irritated but doing dishes or making food...be glad that you have food to make ...and be glad that you have people to share it with you... millions don't."

Read "A walk to remember" and watched the movie also. For the first time I say that the movie is better. It's no unique story...but it's portrayed with such delicateness and subtlety that it's beautiful.
Highlights...
A guy asks her dad for asking the girl out on a date.
The guy asks before he kisses .
The guy fulfils all her dreams before she dies.
The girl guides him to his dreams.
The girl's dad and the guy remain in touch.

"Yup I am romantic any day of the year"...if you can say this, it's a movie of your dreams...

Who knows whats good for you

Had read about the New York law of writing calorie count next to the fast food item....hmm We could do with that law here I guess!

But on second thoughts I wonder if it is a good idea...I mean why not just let people get a life -even out of eating if they enjoy it and are passionate about it. Life is short. But making it sweet can make shorter still!

It's a paradox!

But I personally feel that anything that creates passion is worth it ...it makes you come alive...But passion shouldn't be addiction...And yet I can't think of pasison as but that!

Another paradox.

Solitude

Don't pity your aloneness(not lonliness), enjoy solitude when you get a chance, you wouldn't get it too often!

What matters

It's not always the big things. It's not the strangers at work place. It's the everyday things with people who are part of our everyday life that matter the most. Just because they will understand doesn't mean we should concentrate on the rest...it just gives us more of a reason to take care in those little everyday actions...they would appreciate at heart and we would also feel much better.

Nothing

There seems to be stalemate in life...
nothing to say ,
nothing to hear
how to bear,
as life tumbles into the ocean of nothingness,
nothingness camouflaged by busyness,
the heart dissolves into emptiness

New age political criteria

The polititians want to set reservations everywhere even when they aren't required and only seem to create barriers which don't really exist in this generation and they seem find great pleasure in targeting India's pride-The IIT's.

Well I would love to give it back to them. Let them make decisions for us when they are equal to it. Let there be stringent criteria for people to enter into politics.

I would suggest
1)a minimum graduate degree/ some specialized course
2)with at least 4 years' worth social service and
3)some kind of specialist training institutes could be opened to give moral training as well( may be 6 months' worth).

Well after that, if they decide this then I promise not to object to their decision and neither would others I guess!

And no I am not crazy. The country's leaders need to be educated, sensitive to plight of the people and aware of moral responsibilities.
And each is covered in this criteria. But who will implement it?????

What I say...

Everyone has at least a few minutes' worth conversation to share ....and with some you are meant to share just that!

Love is when you start of with starry eyes,then get back to normal and accept and continue to love the person and suddenly keep getting back the starry eyes for the same person:)

It's strange how people so far away physically
can be closer and people nearby can drift away.

You may not be there to share every moment and every silly secret with me but you are still close to my heart because I think of you and preserve things to tell you !

Does friendship require effort?

It's frustrating to have
conversations like
:"What's up? nothing". Why does that happen?

It's a "too busy world"

A thin veil covers my eyes , my soul , my heart,

It isolates me from this world so big

Where people have no time , no smile and lost heart

Listen to what I say not for once can't you?

No matter how many they may be moments with you seem so few,

Don't you know that I miss you?

.......

Who is the "you" all may ask

It's the world at large

Everyone rushing away with a more important task

Than just a simple gentle friendly chat

When was the last time together you and your mother sat?

Or are you too busy with deadlines, parties and fighting that fat?

.......

Pain isn't only by big things but sometimes lil things hurt so,

And we try disguising it not knowing the reason the heart wants to cry

It isn't crazy , not everything has a reason and one who cares also needs to sometimes let it show

Why be available if you are busy

Old fashioned and demanding as it may be,

We find time for things that matter according to me

Tagged

Ok so I am taking this tag of taps but with the warning that the songs maybe a lil half complete kinds with missing words!lol!But still enjoyed it....


1.Love at first sight

"Pehle nasha...

naya pyar hai anaya intezar,karlun main kya pana haal ae dile bekaraar ,mere dile bekaraar tu hi bta......."
.....
"Kyun aaj kal neend kum khwaab jyada hain...
Lagta khuda ka koi nake iraada hai,
kal tha fakeer dil aaj shahjyada hai,
kya mujhe pyaar hai hai ya..."

2.I love you
"Humein tumse pyaar hai kitna..."
..........
"kaate nhi katte yeh din yeh raat....
kehni thi tumse jo pyaar ki baat,
lo aaj main keh rhi hun...
I Love You"

3.Life is a mystery
"kaisi paheli hai yeh zindagani..."

4.Life is nothing but a moment
"ek din mit jayega maati ke mol..."
........
"pal pal pal pal har pal ,
kaise katega yeh pal har pal"

5.Far from the madding crowds
"chod aaye hum"

6.Absolute high
"aaj main upar
aasman niche
aaj main aage
zamaana hai piche.."

7.Walk by my side
"aa chalke tujhe main leke chalon,
ek aese dagar ke tale,
jahan ghum bhi na hon
aansu bhi naa ho
bas pyaar hi pyaar chale"
.....


"aage aage chalen hum piche piche geet sajna
tere mere hothon pe mithe mithe geet sajna"
......

"paas paas hum saath saath yum baatithe rahen....ek dooje ko yehi kehte rahen,

kabhi main kahun , kabhi tum kaho,ki maine tumhe yeh dil de diya..."

8.Consoling the self
"bhoolja jo hua usse bhoolja"

9.The long and winding roads...
"Ajeeb dastaan hai yeh...
kahan shuru kahan khatam"

10.Paradise

"Socho ke jheelon ke shahar ho

leheron pe apna ke ghar ho

hum jo dekhen sapne pyaare

sach hon saare"

..........

"awaara bhanware..."

11.The love makes the heart go crazy
"pyar diwana hota hai mastana hota hai,
har khushi se har ghum se begana hota hai"

12.Life is beautiful
" I am alive"!(Celien Dion)

13.Smile n Shine
"Musu Musu Hasi, Deu Malai Lai Musu Musu Hasi Deu
Zara Muskura De, Mukura De Zara Muskura De, Aye Khushi "

14.You are all I have
"Tu hi tu satrangi re"

15.Can't get enough of you
"teri meri, meri teri ek jaan hai,
saath tere rahenge sada,
ab hum naa honge juda
tumse milke aese laga
tumse milke"

16.Support
"Jag ne chhina mujhse mujhe jo bhi laga pyaara
tum haar ke dil apna yeh jeet amar kardo
hotthon se chhulo tum,mere geet amar kardo"

17.Life is a dream
"khwabon ki yeh duniya hai khwabo mein hi rehna hai
waqt ne hamehsan yahan naye khel khele hain
kuch bhi ho jaye bas khsush rehna hai"

18.Dreams can get shattered
"tokarde tokarde ho gaya tha har sapna jab vo tootha.."

19.Lift all broken pieces and try again
"bikhare tokadon mein allah ki marji ka manjar paayega"

20.Work is bliss!
"Nirbal se ladai balwan ki yeh kahani hai diye ki aur toofan ki"

21.Fly away
"udta hi firun in hawaon mein kahin, ya main jhool jaun in ghataon mein kahin,
ek kardun aasman aur zameen"

22.Destiny
"Rahe koi laakh pardon mein ,dare sharamse,
nazar koi laakh chuke sanam se,
aa hi jaata hai dil jis pe aana hota hai"

Random Writing Test:)

Usually I blog when I have something to say.Something stays in mind my for few hours if not few days. But this one is different. This is random to nothingness blog!Lwt's see what comes out in 15mins!

Sometimes you get overwhelmed when you realise how much you are loved
Sometimes you wish you could give that bit more instead of being lazy
Sometimes the best of things happen when all seems hazy
Sometimes you fear going crazy

The day doesn't end as it starts
Moods are like shades
Joy comes as sorrow fades
The teacher of life gives unexpected grades


So never despair or fear
Its ok to indulge, buy that new dress
It's ok to relax, no need to overstress
And of your leisure freely confess

For after some time with double vigor you will work
Coz leisure feel even better after works' pleasure
All moments with loved one's being an equal treasure
For love and work have no measure

Books

"Little Women" is a must read for all females and for all males who want to understand them.
What's so good about it is that it so wholesome and clean and pure. An instinctive "feel good" book though not necessary completely happy. But it covers everything, relations, aspirations and emotions.
Francis Bacon rightly said,

“Some books are to be tasted; others swallowed; and some to be chewed and digested.”

This is one to be chewed and digested and cherished in the heart. It's very vital what we read 'coz we imbibe certain characteristics based on that. So it makes sense to read some books which would mould us better. Of course if we strive deep enough we will find good or bad in any book but it's more likely to get good in this book. But I feel even Enid Blyton is splendid for any age 'coz long forgotten lessons of purity and goodness do come back to you in it sometimes ...Isay that from experience! Even without that, it's always good to read your childhood favs once in a while - gives a kind of security and childlike carefreeness.

"Brida" is another masterpiece-the author holds you gently and takes you out of this world while showing you parts of this world which you missed out while in it. It's a miracle how such a book is written!

Of course there are too many good books for me to write about...books almost always seem to keep me good company!

Little strokes fell great oaks

It feels good to be appreciated...it's strange how sometimes we feel no one notices or cares about the little things that we seem to toil over or take pride in but mark my words-that is never so. So it's best to do each little task with full vigor.
Cricket shows this...take time to notice sometimes how fielders give their all to save even a run and not just in crunch situations but as a habit.
But then I also feel we mustn't overdo it-I mean if a class player gets badly injured before a vital game in order to save a non-match threatening run, then won't it be better if he taken little care of himself also?
So it's OK to take a holiday now and then to rest yourself when required especially when you know you are not at a crucial stage. But when you do work, give your best and never be discouraged by thinking that "this matters to no one". It always does for "little strokes fell great oaks"

Food for thought!

Some of the best sayings I have read...credit goes to Sunday TOI....just
collecting my fav ones.......

"Pure sentiment is everything.With it, nothing can fail, without it nothing can succeed"

"The hardest of all is learning to be a well of affection and not a fountain , to show them we love them not when we feel like it but when they do"

"Advice is like snow- the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind"

"Never pretend to a love you do not feel, for love is not ours to command"

"Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn't know you left open"

"Relationships are how we relate to others"

"To help other, it is enough to perfect your art"

"Even if two people are together, it doesn't mean that either can forget that each has a life of their own also"

"One of the reasons people hold onto memories so tightly is because memories are the only things that don't change when everything else does"

PG Express 2

We come back in circles.......a year has gone by since I joined here......and now again I see interviews being held...brings back a nostalgia and makes me think back on how life has been here.

How I have begun to love my institute with time.......it's given me a lot.....gone is the laid back attitude and last minute rushes(OK to some extent only), it's replaced with a passion to work and work satisfaction....
The second semester started on hard work and serious attitude...right from hols...with the project which rescued me away from low confidence.
Every moment has been unique and there have been so many learning experiences...
At each new thing to learn and I would groan.."how can I possibly do this?" and then with great guidance and encouragement , I would move on...pestering some friends a lot also by talking about nothing else but the work assigned! I remember the days of staying back and working when all were free to chill out.But it was worth it.Then suddenly it would work and I would be delighted!And so the process cycle continued!

Then came my fav subjects...EE and AI.....loved the humanities subject so much...always felt most attentive and passionate about it...love "writing" again...even the 5000 word essay!
It probably made me ready to take up challenges in all other subjects just knowing that I could do this also...and it came also in a way so fairy like....when I could find no elective to go to and just sat for 1 class of this by chance and got hooked! Enjoyed discussions with teacher....enjoyed presentations and even regular classes.....it brought the inner me.

Loved working in partners in AI assignments....as if creating something!Loved studying the subject also....
The exciting next part was the Ed board..something just for me....impulsively joined it and loved it!My second experience in a different team now!

Loved the snatched out moments on pleasure also...visits to PVR saket, green park,moments of telling all with friends , necafe discussions.....
and beautiful moments of being understood and silence also.....
The reunion of old college....like a wish come true...
strange that i have to a stage of being able to call it "old college"..but happens....

with time everyday situations, places and people

come in front of our queue of attention

....And a passion is in its buds for me...photography!
And may be finally dance also!
and its been a sem of lots and lots of blogging and self dependence and growth also(more and more food lol!) .
And a sem which culminated beautifully with a perfect birthday and normal result(at least good in all my fav subjects and as expected in others) :)

And now PG express continues with summers......
Love being at my institute even in evenings...second home...the lab!

Deadlines

Deadlines make you stronger despite the stress...........................






........................if you let them!

Thought

"Use the talents you possess ,for the woods would be very silent if only the best birds sang"
...read somewhere...so complete in itself and so beautiful ..

Tears

"Tears are a very big thing. Keep them for that instead of shedding on little thing"..........heard from someone....
may be it's true...coz tears mean we pain about something...
But tears also represent an outlet to our frustrations so that way I feel it's ok to cry if it prevents you from having pent up feelings

Knowledge

As you go in higher realms of education, you are made to realize that it's not knowledge which important...but its application.
Is it a correct thought?
I feel some knowledge is also essential despite the above conclusion based on my experiences.

Forwards

An interesting thought I came across ...little actions matter a lot. Something as trivial as forwarding a message/mail sent in "timepass" also matters. It shows that you are promoting that thought. So be careful and read properly what you send next time!

Tagged

1. Last movie you saw in a theater?
Chak de India may be in October last year.

2. What book are you reading
Do you seriously want to know? Just Enid Blyton to feel light and fresh in exams!
Last cool books I read were Namesake and "The Secret".

3. Favorite board game?
Carrom and Monopoly! I also don't have anyone to play right now!

4. Favorite magazine?
Sunday magazine of TOI

5. Favorite smells?
The smell of paper on old books, smell of rain_wet sand also, smell of paint,some soaps also!

6. Favorite sounds?
Soft music with good words

7. Worst feeling in the world?
Being helpless if some loved one in trouble, next is being completely alone whatever the reason....

8. What is the first thing you think of when you wake up?
What I dreamt of in the night or the last conversation that I had the previous day!

9. Favorite fast food place?
Barista's...Dark Temptation is heaven, McD's..sentimental values attached but also like everything there


10. Future child’s name?
Hmmm.....lets see!

11. Finish this statement. “If I had lot of money I’d….?”
I would buy lots of novels, open a private library, ,publish some books of my own, buy lots of gifts for loved ones, open a joint NGO with Parul for beggars to gain work ...and to help the children especially...
open some organisation to help stressed children...
have a swimming pool of my own
a beautiful garden,
Would not like to keep lots of money as I feel it would only lead to more stress and problems.

12. Do you sleep with a stuffed animal?
Yes I do..with 3 of them!Love all 3:)

13. Storms - cool or scary?
Scary

14. Favorite drink?
Coca Cola!

15. Finish this statement, “If I had the time I would….”?
Write a book

16. Do you eat the stems on broccoli?
Yes I do and like them also!

17. If you could dye your hair any color, what would be your choice?
Brown...have wanted to experience this for long!

18. Name all the different cities/towns you’ve lived in?
Delhi, Toronto,Durban,London, Dhaka

19. Favorite sports to watch?
Cricket of course!

20. One nice thing about the person who sent this to you?
Our wave-lenghts match a lot so love being with her! She understands , cares and converses well.

21. What’s under your bed?
Various shoes and sandals

22. Would you like to be born as yourself again?
As long as I have same loved ones I would.

23. Morning person, or night owl?
Night owl being forced to be a morning person

24. Over easy, or sunny side up?
Sunny side up!

25. Favorite place to relax?
My bed! Or easy chairs of Bharti building. Anywhere with loved ones.

6. Favorite pie?
Love all kinds!

27. Favorite ice cream flavor?
Caramel ice cream...still searching for that flavour in India.... /Black curren/Chocolate/Vanilla..depends on mood!

ou tagged this to, who’s most likely to respond first?
Lets see.

I tag...Ankur,Ash,Utkarsh!

LOVE

Read this somewhere.........
"Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favourite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams. Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all - one known only by those who love. "
But the best most beautiful and definition I heard is that "love is just love, it is not happiness or sadness....though it brings that based on how the on we love is feeling"...quoting out of a comment!Can't help it!

Quote

“To love is to suffer.
To avoid suffering, one must not love.
But then, one suffers from not loving.
Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer.
To be happy is to love.
To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy.
Therefore, to be happy, one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.”..

-A paradoxical yet beautiful quote that I read.

For me it means that both situations of happiness and sadness will exist in life. They are unavoidable even in the most beautiful parts of life.So we shouldn't try to hide from them under the cover of anyone or anything.

Query

What is the difference between being selfish and being self centered?

I guess may be it's required to be a little self centered......but not selfish

Love

We all talk about love and relationships and future. But when it comes to pure love, then there is no need to give it a name. It is just that ....love. And it stays just that no matter what you call it.But it's also something which noone can truly understand or define. They can only feel it. Like a soul.

Cheer up!

Somehow Blogging can never replace the diary. To vent your heart out, you need the physical activity of writing...and the privacy also...coz in privacy there is a protective wall from lonely words....

It's strange how in almost all problematci situations...to cheer up all that is required is a few of your very own passions.....
For me....to be loved, and..........to write diary, to read a book , eat something nice, watch a light movie, listen to some songs .......
one of these is bound to work....for most ppl i guess
If it doesn't then just sleep over it.

Nothing can work right if you get swayed away from your priorities.
There are things in life which are above reason and above logic and above stubbornness.
Nothing can be achieved unless that is realised.

Learning techniques

The fundamental principle of machine learning is that initially you make assumptions( which are usually wrong) and then as you make mistakes, you learn and the mechanism improves. In some cases it even goes further to say that you must make mistakes of a particular order before your tool is ready.

How easy life would be if we accepted this simple truth...in life we can learn a lot from mistakes....(and until we do we may even make the same mistake again and again!)

Thus mistakes are not to be shunned but their causes must be removed without any sense of sadness of excessive guilt about them. Because that's how life progresses.

Examples:

People and situations are not always what they seem by face value.Misjudgement will happen but it's OK if we learn from it.But it is much better to beleive in goodness of human nature.

Sometimes you are appreciated much more than you realise coz your eyes are closed.Open them and see the beautiful world around you.

Life is good:)

Life gets so complicated as you grow up...responsibilities,adjustments,so many ideologies undergo a change or have to , so many habits you must forgo. The world has certain norms for adults and expects them all to follow. But in childhood, it is so easy to break any norm and it i forgotten the next day. It would be so nice to be child always.

What makes these changes possible is love.
"Even is the terrain is rough, I will walk along if you will hold my hand"
Life is good!

A walk to remember

Some pics I enjoyed taking...............


(Bright and shiny like the glorious Sun)




(Such Richness in purple)





(kiss of nature)







(heart of nature)






(So far away yet so beautiful like..babies!)





(Us diverse people of different colors)

Sometimes I wonder if optimism kills instinct.....I mean we can train ourselves to happy but what actually feel gets hidden away from even us and we forget out genuine reaction to situations.....and thus may not be able to distinguish between things not good for us and things towards which we should be optimistic

Some random thoughts (converse converse)

Anne Frank rightly said" Despite everything I still believe in human goodness".
And as I would the worst never happens, things do becomes ok "somehow".

Anther thought.......If we knew and understood each other perfectly then there would be nothing left to say, no words. It's always in the "getting to know stage" that you have maximum words,queries. After someitme things become implicit. Then queries are only regarding different interpretations. It would be so motonous and dull if someone agreed to your eveyword...it would be like talking to yourself.....no new ideas......
'Coz each person in relation with us is like multiple gifts wrapped in many layers...each layer unravelling a particularly beautfiul and unique gem.....
After sometime this is what happens to converstions of some old friends.......
Hi hru?
Im fine, hru?
And what's happening these days?
Nothign new yaar, what about you?
Nothing here either.
Sad to hear these kind of conversations replacing the long chats and long days you may have once spent with those people.Why does it happen?Because if someone is in touch with our everyday realities then we can relate to them...but to someone else we wonder where to begin the triviliaties....how to explain...and we end up keeping quiet....
That's no based on distance...it's based on how well you are connected....and that in turn is based on how much you try and how much effort you are willing to put into being connected.
If despite distance you are willing to update then this never happens.
Of course no updates don't ever mean no care, they just display the fats life around us and how we allow oursleves to get entrapped within it.

Green eyed monster

Green eyed monster
ripping me apart in mind
making me to all reason blind
from where does it come?
and why does it come?

green eyed monster
making blood rush through my veins
giving the heart all sorts of pains
why don't you leave me alone?
why not go somewhere else to moan?

green eyed monster
bring out the worst in me
for everyone dear or see known to see
where does it reside?
when does its power subside?

green eyed moster
making me lose all control
and forget my goal
why is it so strong?
does it mean i think all wrong?

green eyed moster
who lies in us all
based on our weakest link,our downfall

who is your one?

Isn't it as futile as a gun.